The Date
. . . I promise you, we’ll get married before 2009 ends.
I only had one condition: wedding date must be between November and February. November, December, January, February. That’s 4 months to choose from.
Why those months only? Because those 4 months comprise what I call my “Four Seasons of Loneliness” (Yep, the Boyz II Men lovely ballad.)
November is my birth month but it’s always been just another birthday.
December is the Christmas season but it’s always been just another Christmas.
January is the start of the New Year but it’s always been just another New Year.
February is all about love and red hearts and Valentines but it’s always been just another Valentines.
Don’t ask why. Sadness intensifies during these four months.
Hence, I once wrote:
It’s depressing in ways only depressed people understand.
It has always been. Until D and I met, and everything changed.
So when he proposed and made me choose our wedding date, I was determined to break my love affair with loneliness and forever dissolve the self-imposed curse of those four months. Getting married during my ‘four seasons of loneliness’ is a symbolical triumph over my depression.
But setting the boundaries was only half the task. We still have to choose the exact date. And limiting our selves to four months actually helped in a way because all we needed to do was find a date (within those 4 months instead of 12) that suits the next set of considerations:
- It has to be a weekend. Although it is tempting to have a wedding on a weekday (for a host of many reasons), we don’t want to trouble our guests, especially those who are in school or are working on regular days.
- It has to be a full moon. The only superstition that we made allowance for. Ancient beliefs had it that getting married on a full moon brings luck to the couple. And I thought, a little luck wouldn’t hurt. Besides, I heart full moon. Been in love with it since I was a child ‘moonbathing’ with my friends.
- It has to mean something good, numerologically. We’re not heavy believers of numerology or Feng Shui or whatnot. But I don’t know, I guess we just want to have all the luck that we can have. =)
Our Wedding Date
January 30, 2010 fits perfectly in all these ‘requirements’. It falls on a Saturday and a full moon. Check the Lunar Calender for 2010.
Although it’s no longer 2009, we settled for this date because it feels right. And feeling right is a good way to start a new life together.
What it means?
Adding up all the digits:
01302010 = 0+1+3+0+2+0+1+0 = 7
And according to Wikipedia, Number 7 in Chinese means:
Seven
The number 7 (七, Pinyin: qī) symbolizes “togetherness”. It is a lucky number for relationships. It is also recognized as the luckiest number in the West, and is one of the rare numbers that is great in both Chinese and many Western cultures. It is a lucky number in Chinese culture, because it sounds alike to the Chinese character 起 (Pinyin: qi3) meaning arise.
We take it as “together, we arise.”
