I was visiting some of my bookmarked wedding blogs when I came to OneWed and read this: Bugdet Wisely, But Splurge for your Dream Wedding Dress. It piqued my interest. Being a self-proclaimed budget bride who refuses to splurge on a dress I will wear only once, I had to read what she is saying about spending all the way on a wedding dress. How will she drive her point? How will she justify it?
Spend on a dress that will make you feel beautiful because IT IS YOUR BIG DAY, that’s her point. A statement that a lot of people has told me a lot of times before. But she was able to say in a way that seems to make a lot more sense than anyone did. Indeed, it sounds more logical although, still not convincing enough. But I was intrigued by her wit and her opinions so I tracked her down on her blog, The Bespoke Bride (update: the blog was deleted already), where I would find yet another very interesting entry:
And this time, not only did I see her point, I also saw myself in her. She, too, initially want to spend as little as possible and bought a gown because it’s the most beautiful gown that her budget can buy. So it should be okay. Only, it’s not.
“Here is the segue to trust your instinct. You should not have to convince yourself to love your dress. You should walk out and feel that it is the right one. It does not matter if it’s couture or a cotton sundress. You must love how you feel in the dress. Like many things in life, you should not buy it because it’s a great deal. I knew all this. This had been my mantra from the get go. But I defied my own logic, and bought the dress.”
And in the next paragraph is a feeling that I’m secretly harboring inside me. A feeling that I hope D will understand, a decision that I wish he will cave in.
“It hung in my closet for a week during which time I continued to look online at other dresses. I felt like I was cheating. I knew then this was not my dress. I didn’t feel fabulous in it. I didn’t feel fabulous about it. This gorgeous lace, and crystal embellished gown and I were not meant to be. Somehow I managed to buy a dress from my “do not wants” because I didn’t go with my instinct. I was going to have to find another dress. Was it in the budget? No. But I would sell the dress, and I would make it work. Because I do not want to feel just OK walking down the aisle, I want to feel amazing – I want to love how I feel in it.”
And you know what will MOST LIKELY happen next. I just need to find a way to ease the guilt of my spending on so many things that we end up not using for the wedding.
On the same note, I wonder how much is she selling this dress that she will NOT be wearing.
‘Coz this is exactly what I want, lace with crystal embellishments. One bride’s loss can be another bride’s gain. =)
